Okay, I guess it all depends on how you look at things. I'm talking about how you look at what you are doing to simplify your life.
It means different things to different people, but it's all really the same thing, isn't it?
I have tried to be frugal all of our married life. I'm the saver. I'm the one who looks for the sales, the deals, the yard sales or shops at the thrift store. Dear Darling, only recently has begun to see the value of reusing and recycling things we have or things we are lucky enough to find, and that it isn't so bad after all.
But now, we are empty nesters, and we've had some major life changes and health issues, so now, instead of just being frugal, we are beginning to look for sustainable as well.
I like to garden, and so my Dear Darling is willing to help me transform our yard into more of a garden than we've ever had. We enjoy knowing where our food comes from and knowing who our farmer is. Not just me, but "the egg man" and for next year the CSA we have joined.
We want healthy food in our lives, we want to make more of the things we enjoy, such as the bread, the butter, yogurt, home cooked meals. It not only saves us money, but it adds to the worth of our dollar.
Part of the reason for this post is I recently saw a show that is on TV here in the US called "Extreme Cheapskates". And, while some of the things they show people doing make sense and are sustainable things, some of them are just not right. I don't feel taking things, such as sugar packets or ketchup packets that are not to be used right then for or with your purchase, is not right or ethical. To me, that's stealing. That business owner is trying to make a living and provide a service, for a reasonable cost and when people walk off with handfuls of packets of sugar, that is stealing. Not being a cheapskate. Not being frugal. (But, I guess, after looking at the definition, this is being a cheapskate, but in my book, it's stealing.)
Frugal:
: careful about spending money or using things when you do not need to
: using money or supplies in a very careful way
To me being frugal is using ALL of everything. So is it extreme to open up the tube of toothpaste to get the last little bit out? Some people may think so, but if you don't have to open or buy another toothpaste for a week, and you are using it all, you are being a good steward of your purchase and your money.
Do you add water to your shampoo, body soap or laundry soap bottle to shake the last little bits out? Do you add water to your jar of sauce to get the last bits of it out? I don't see that as being a cheapskate, I see it as being frugal.
Is being a cheapskate not wanting to spend money?
Cheapskate:
a miserly or stingy person;
especially : one who tries to avoid paying a fair share of costs or expenses
I don't really think I'm a cheapskate, not that I'm saying there is anything wrong with that. Everyone lives within their means. I like to consider myself frugal, meaning that I like to reuse, reduce and recycle. Make my environment better with my choices. Speak with how and where I spend our dollars.
I don't try to get out of paying my fair share of costs or expenses, I just want to be sure I'm getting the most value for the money I'm spending.
Sustainable:
[
more sustainable; most sustainable]
1 : able to be used without being completely used up or destroyed
▪ sustainable energy resources ▪ a sustainable water supply
2 : involving methods that do not completely use up or destroy natural resources
▪ sustainable agriculture/farming/techniques
3 : able to last or continue for a long time
* all definitions were found online in the Merriman-Webster dictionary.
I guess they are all not really the same. Being Frugal and a person who chooses to live sustainably is what I would like to be known for.